Life is short. God is big.

Life is short. God is big.

Recently I read Goliath Must Fall by Louie Giglio and it impacted me greatly (I highly recommend this read!!) In the book, Giglio walks through five different giants that we commonly face in life: Rejection, Comfort, Addiction, Anger, and Fear. Seeing as I struggle with all five of those giants in some way, the book helped remind me of how powerful God is in helping me fight them and how it’s not up to me alone to conquer them.

In his chapter on comfort, Giglio shares this idea that life is short, and God is big. He reminds us that faith thrives in discomfort, and that nothing worth having comes without a cost.

These two sentences have impacted me greatly this week as I wrestle with losing comfort and worrying about the future:

LIFE IS SHORT.

GOD IS BIG.

Big transitions come with a lot to be nervous about or fearful of. I am in the process of moving twice in the next four weeks and leaving the people and places I know and love. It is easy for me to become consumed with worry about my to-do list and the “what ifs” in this season of uncertainty.

But, what can I be certain of today?

This truth. The truth that life is short and God is big. So why would I waste this precious day I’ve been given by filling it with worry of could or could not be? Why would I not spend my day being grateful for the good in it and worshipping this great God who gave it all to me? In his book, Giglio also shares that,

Worship and worry cannot occupy the same space.

When worry of the future, or even the present, starts to creep in, I must instead choose to be thankful and choose to worship. I don’t want my life to be comfortable anyway, that would be no fun!

In moments where I feel overwhelmed, I’ve learned to run to God first after making many mistakes of not doing that in the past. Yesterday, I opened my Bible to Psalm 40 and these words rocked my world:

Lord, you do not withhold your compassion from me. Your constant love and truth will always guard me. For troubles without number have surrounded me; my iniquities have overtaken me; I am unable to see. They are more than the hairs of my head, and my courage leaves me. Lord, be pleased to rescue me; hurry to help me, Lord.

Psalm 40: 11-13

God does not withhold his compassion from us. He does not abandon us. He walks alongside us through every moment of every day. He cares for us and provides for us. He is a good Father. I believe that and trust in that, particularly when worry and fear begins to creep in. When it does, I remember that life is short and God is big. He is powerful, sovereign, and will never leave me. Rejoice in that today. Replace your worry with worship.

Unexpected Gifts

Unexpected Gifts

The best kinds of gifts are the ones we don’t expect. You know, like when a friend surprises you or you open that present and it was way better than anything you imagined. I love pleasant surprises, and when God surprises us with unexpected blessings, it reminds me of how ever-present He is in my life, how He is always thinking of me.

This past month God gave me many unexpected gifts and I am so excited to share them all with you.

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I spent almost the entire month of June in National Leadership Consultant (yes we got a new name) training with 15 of the best and the brightest from across the nation. Six of us were returning this year, and we were so excited to meet the ten new consultants joining us on the road this year.

Spending every minute of the day with a group of people for three weeks straight will make you pretty close to them fairly quickly. These new friendships are expected in a way, but I am always pleasantly surprised by how greatly these women impact me for the better. We begin to open up to one another and share about our experiences and how we ended up where we are today. It is such a gift to get to share life with these women all across the country. I am constantly challenged by their differing perspectives, and they push me to grow in ways I didn’t consider before. I am so proud of this class of consultants and how hard each and every one of us worked to be prepared for the fall. It is going to be a great year.

PSA to all the Chi Omegas out there: get ready for your NLC this year because whichever one she is, she is a ROCK STAR

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Along with all of us consultants, the six Regional Directors and our incredible boss, Rachel, also spent hours on hours with us each day at HQ learning and growing. These women are outstanding role models for us with unreal insight on what we do. They each possess different gifts and strengths that provide for us all the perspectives we need to excel in our roles. They are incredibly humble and never act like they are better than us. They make us feel at home away from home and support us fiercely. These women I work with and for are an unexpected gift in the ways they treat me and encourage me.

It has been such a joy seeing how my relationships with my co-workers has deepened throughout this year. I know they will have my back for anything. I know they will share wisdom with me and tell me like it is. I know I can count on any of them for anything and they’ll be there for me. Fierce friends like this rarely come around at all, let alone in the work place. What an unexpected treasure.

I also have to give my girl Katherine Mendieta a huge shout out in this post. You, my friend, are an incredible, unexpected gift. Katherine and I met for the first time four years ago when she came to TCU to take pictures of our chapter. I maybe said hi to her, but that’s all. Fast forward to now and we have spent the past year working together and building a friendship that led us to a trip to Nashville last weekend with all our gals. And we had the best time.

What is special about Katherine is that she has this remarkable ability to make others feel confident in themselves and proud of who they are. Whether it is through a conversation or through her photography, Katherine empowers others to be happy with who they are. I love her honesty and the ways she uses her gifts to make others feel important. She makes all of us feel beautiful and special no matter how we may actually be feeling on the inside. I hope everyone has a Katherine in their life, because she is truly a treasure.

And then sometimes God introduces other new relationships into your life that you really didn’t expect. People who impress you and care for you beyond what you could ask for. It fills up your heart knowing that sometimes new people come into your life for a season or for a lifetime, but for no matter what length of time, you know there is purpose in you knowing them. Simply because they make you better.

Joy is what happens to us when we allow ourselves to recognize how good things really are. 

~Marianne Williamson 

I see God equipping me for this new stage of life in so many ways, particularly through the people he has put in it. I am getting ready to move to South Carolina for a season and it is going to be a whole new adventure. I am excited, but, of course, a little nervous. I know I have nothing to fear for God is with me every step of the way. I have nothing to fear because I have an incredible support system of friends who love and care for me better than I could imagine. I have people who push me to be my best version of myself each day. Thank you, Chi Omega, for giving me these unexpected gifts.

Charleston & Louisville

Charleston & Louisville

My first job gave me 15 + of the greatest, new best friends I could have ever dreamed of. If you had told me this time last year that I would be taking trips across the nation to visit my co-workers and celebrate their weddings, I would think you are crazy. I mean it’s not THIS normal to be so close with all of your co-workers right?? Dang do I feel lucky.

The past two weeks I had the pleasure of traveling to Charleston, SC and Louisville, KY to spend time celebrating life with the greatest of friends.

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18446733_10213192887119123_3948714958932021089_nKJ Daley, my sweet ray of sunshine, got married two weeks ago in Charleston. About 12 of us Chi Omega employees came flying in from across the nation to celebrate her. We all stayed in a massive Air B n B and experienced the widest array of Uber driver personalities you could ever think of. We ate yummy Southern cookin and danced the nights away. It was the most perfect vacation I could have asked for.

Nothing is better than celebrating a beautiful marriage alongside your best friends. It is such a joyful occasion and always gives me hope and excitement for what is to (hopefully) come for me and all my other single ladies. KJ is the most faithful friend you could ask for, and it was such a joy to get to support her as she began her life with Austin.

The last day I was in Charleston, my girl Div and I pretty much spent the whole day together just us18527420_10154621126711586_993903960169657461_o two since everyone else had left. We were sitting on the dock by the water and thinking about how much has changed in our lives this year and all the ways we’ve grown. It is tremendous when we really thought about it — how God can change so many things about your life in a matter of 12 months. It is beautiful and awesome and challenging, and I will never go back to playing it “safe” ever again.

 

KJ and Austin, I love you SO much and am overjoyed I got to celebrate you in one of the greatest cities with the greatest friends.

Louisville

Wait…WHY are you going to Louisville again?

For a vacation to see my friends!

Oh….okay.

This was the conversation I shared with nearly everyone who asked me why I was going to Kentucky. People thought I was super weird for taking a trip to Kentucky just to visit my friends that I never get to see. But, to me, it was 100% worth it. When you only get to see your co-workers/best friends twice a year, you prioritize whatever it takes to spend just a little more time with them.

My girl Dani and I visited our friends Jenna, Elaine, and Katie who all hail from the great state of Kentucky. I didn’t know a single thing about Kentucky until this year, and then, all of a sudden I started working with three women from this place! Funny how places and people can just enter your life like that sometimes.

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Never have I seen more horses in my life than I did during my few days in Kentucky. We explored Lexington and Louisville, and even walked across the bridge to Indiana one afternoon. The grass is super green and there are horse barns that look like mansions.

But the best part of this trip was simply the time I got to spend with my friends. Again, when you don’t see your co-workers every day, the time you do get to spend with them is so precious. 18582553_10155346825524836_6363573789704431325_n

I’m so thankful that this job has given me a whole new perspective and appreciation for friendships. This job has provided me with more relationships than I ever thought possible. It has taught me to not take them for granted and to be absolutely present when I am with my people. Time is precious currency, and I am grateful for the friends God has put in my life in the past 12 months that have shown me what a gift time with friends is.

 

When I was in Charleston, I picked up this book called Joy that is filled with impactful quotes. This one really struck me and sums up how I have been striving to view my precious time with my people. Here’s to more minutes and more joy to come!

Resolved, that I will take each precious minute, and relish all the joy within it.

~Kathleen Rice

Texas State & UT

Texas State & UT

This post is about light in the darkness. Yes, it is about my visits to Texas State and the University of Texas, but on those visits I saw light, perseverance, and hope shining through dark spaces like never before.

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I absolutely loved visiting the women at Texas State. They were all so respectful, engaging, and hard-working. I had great conversations with them discussing new ideas for their chapter and how they can always be improving. We shared stories and experiences and talked about how we can love our members here best.

Then something happened on my second day of my visit…it flooded. Like hard core flooded. Like people were wake boarding in the street flooded. Like we had to rip out the floors of the chapter house flooded.

Now, this flooding could have thrown a huge dip in my visit plans. It could have left the members feeling discouraged and down. But it didn’t. They refused to be discouraged in the midst of hardship and inconvenience! They chose to find joy in a hard situation and adapted to make the meetings work.

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As a Chi Omega family, we walk together through whatever is going on-good or bad, floods or dry seasons. That week I got to walk through a tough situation with these women as we met to discuss how we can make their chapter stronger. Alpha Zeta, I am encouraged by your positive attitudes, love for Chi Omega, and desire to always be growing. Thank you for an incredible week that flooded me with happiness!

University of Texas

So my visit to UT was scheduled for the week of April 17. But, at the beginning of April, I found out there was a trip to Coastal Carolina that I needed to go on that week for marketing. So, I called up the UT president, Meg, and asked if she wouldn’t mind moving my visit to the following week. I felt awful that I had to ask her to move the trip, but man did God know what He was doing.

Because if I had gone on my visit to UT the week of April 17, I would have been there the night we lost a beloved member of our Chi Omega family at the University of Texas, Nancy-Jane David.

And, instead, I was able to go the following week with the sole purpose of comforting and supporting our girls through this terrible tragedy.

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See, sometimes we don’t know the purpose behind our sufferings. We don’t know why tragic things happen in our lives. Then, other times, a glimpse of purpose shines through the darkness and we can comfort others through what we have endured ourselves. Last week, at the University of Texas, I was able to see a bit of that purpose.

A little over a year ago, we lost a remarkable member of my chapter at TCU to cancer. Taylor Helland was the brightest light I’ve ever known. Her faith, positivity, hope, and gratitude was unwavering through all of her trials. Taylor left a mark on my life forever. She inspires me to Choose Joy every day even though she is no longer with me.

And a year later, I am chosen to visit UT where they have just lost a member of their chapter. I am given a space and a group of women I can share my story with. I can walk with them through their grief having been through it myself. Because of my loss last year, I could love these women better through their loss last week. God’s hand is so evident in the timing of all of this, and I’m learning that suffering and loss have different purposes for our lives at different times.

See last year, losing Taylor led me to accept this job as a National Consultant at the thought of being able to share her story with women across the country. And last week, I was able to do just that to comfort and support women going through a loss themselves.

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Let me just say how PROUD and ENCOURAGED I am by these women. Their unconditional love and support of one another during this difficult time is inspiring. They have come together and are walking through this grief as a family. They are providing counseling and support for their members. They are thinking of ways they can carry on NJ’s legacy. They refuse to be without hope. They are vulnerable with one another. They are not pretending to be okay when they’re not. They are an inspiration to me and a deep encouragement that there is hope in the darkness. There is light. NJ was a tremendous light to Iota, and her light is being carried on.

The light shines in the darkness, and the darkness has not overcome it.

John 1:5

Darkness will not have the final say. These women are ALL embodiments of light, love, and hope. They are pushing one another toward it each day, and they push me to believe in it too. And I get to call these outstanding women my sisters. How blessed could I be.

I think the words that another friend from Iota bravely shared through her own blog sums up greatly all I could say:

But in the midst of it all, there is light. It can pierce the all-encompassing darkness and break it of the power it has. This light is unlike any other light. It provides hope for the hopeless and peace for the broken-hearted. What is this marvelous light? It is the hope that comes from the cross, the hope that we have to cling to in the midst of all this grief. It is knowing that we have a Father, who dearly loves all his people so much so that he sent his son, Jesus Christ, to die on the cross in our place.

Brooke Barfield

https://ourfriendnj.wordpress.com/2017/04/19/in-loving-memory-of-sweet-nancy-jane/

Thank you, Iota, for showing me what it looks like to lean into love in the midst of tragedy. Thank you for letting me share a piece of me with you. Thank you for letting me into your hurt and pain. Thank you for reminding me of the unwavering hope I have in Christ in the midst of an ever-changing world. I love each and every one of you and am unspeakably proud of your lights that are shining through the darkness.

Coastal Carolina

Coastal Carolina

Last week, I had the joy of getting to visit Coastal Carolina University where we will be starting our 181st Chi Omega chapter this fall. And y’all, I could NOT be more excited or encouraged by this trip.

The students and staff at Coastal were outstanding. They were all so welcoming and excited for us to be there! They were willing to help with anything we needed, whether that was a lunch recommendation or setting up our table for the day. They came and danced with us as we were marketing and listened and cared about who we are and what we are doing. They cared about our team and wanted to get to know us. And, on our first night there, they surprised us with a sisterhood event for US and our new members!! I was blown away by their care for us already. This community is a special one, I can feel it.

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And, this is all super important to me because I will be moving to Myrtle Beach this August to help start this new chapter at Coastal Carolina University!

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I still can’t believe I get this incredible opportunity to love and guide and teach over 100 women all about Chi Omega. I cannot wait to be there with this incredible community that is already established and to help Chi Omega integrate into it. I am overjoyed and humbled that I would be given this opportunity. Thank you, Chi Omega, thank you big time, Jesus.

See, you never know what each season will hold. This season God loosened my grip on many parts of my life, leaving me open-handed and willing to say yes to opportunities that came my way. God reshaped my heart to be ready to accept this opportunity. I know I have nothing to fear in this change, for He will be with me each step of the journey. He will equip me to lead these women, and I cannot wait to see the impact Chi Omega can have at Coastal Carolina.

Life is either a daring adventure, or nothing. ~Hellen Keller

Chants UP to this new adventure ahead of me.

Letting Go

Today, a chapter in my life closed. Today, I accepted the freedom Christ offers me each day by trusting him. Today, on Easter Sunday, I looked to the empty tomb and rejoiced in my risen King who loves me deeper than I will ever understand.

See today, I saw someone for the first time in a while. I saw someone who had broken my heart. Someone whom I loved and cared for deeply. Someone I was worried about.

In my season of broken-heartedness, I knew God was close to me, I mean it even says so in his word:

Is anyone crying for help? God is listening, ready to rescue you. If your heart is broken, you’ll find God right there. ~Psalm 34:17-18

But I couldn’t feel it. I wasn’t “feeling” any better. I was still crying, still longing for love, still demanding an explanation for my pain and loneliness. I felt like I was reaching for God but missing each time. My heart didn’t feel like it was healing but rather that it was opening itself up to more pain. Really, I know now, that my heart was being transformed and changed into a heart that wants more of Jesus and less of this world.

One day, I had a conversation with a friend who asked me if I had given control of him to Jesus. If I trusted Jesus with him. I loved and cared for this person, had made him an idol in my life, and would not let God have control.

Rather than to continue to grasp for control and demand answers from God, I began to pray for him and to pray that God would have him and that I would trust God. Knowing how God was rescuing me, I could trust that he was rescuing him too. But deep down, I don’t think I fully believed that. At least, not until this morning.

You see, sometimes I don’t believe God is listening to me when I pray, or that he even answers some prayers. And then there are times like this morning when you see God answer prayers instantly and it knocks the truth of his faithfulness right back into you.

It’s Easter Sunday. So naturally I was praying that my someone would be at church this morning. Not so I could see or speak to him. But so that I could see him drawing near to God again, that I could see evidence of God’s unending love moving in him. I bowed my head, closed my eyes, prayed for him, and when I looked up, he was in the front row.

So here’s the thing…

God is ALWAYS listening to our prayers, always crafting the perfect response in His perfect timing.

He IS near,

He IS moving,

He CAN be trusted.

Today, this chapter of my life closed. I no longer desired control or answers, but was overwhelmed by peace. My heart has changed, I no longer want the same things I used to. God was saying to me, “Look Mere, I’ve got him, I’ve been listening to you, I’ve been moving, I won’t let him go, but YOU can.”

So I did. And I am. I thought I had closed this chapter a few weeks ago, but until we fully sacrifice something, whether it be a job, relationship, or really anything, can we really move forward?

God wants to free us from ourselves, and there’s nothing like suffering to show us that we need something bigger than our abilities and our strength and our explanations. There’s nothing like suffering to remind us how not in control we actually are, how little power we ultimately have, and how much we ultimately need God.

~Tullian Tchividjian

So here’s a shout out to God for answering my prayer instantly this morning to reassure me that I can give up control. That I can trust him. That I can leave this chapter behind and look to what comes next. He indeed rescued me from my heartbreak, and He will rescue you from yours. He strips us of our idols to lead us back to the throne of grace. He is risen, He is here, and He is worthy of our praise.

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College of Charleston & USC

College of Charleston & USC

Hello friends! I am writing this blog from my friend’s apartment in Columbia, South Carolina, where I have been spending quite a bit of time recently. The past two weeks I’ve visited the College of Charleston and the University of South Carolina for work, but made sure to make some time for my friends who live here too. An unexpected two-day flight delay has kept me here even longer, and I have learned so much, yet again, from this trip.

College of Charleston

I spent last week in Charleston, SC, which easily became one of my new favorite places in the US. Charleston is a historic city where old, colorful homes line the cobblestone streets. Horse-drawn carriages battle cars for the roads and unique restaurants fill the town with their delicious aromas.

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Many students attend the College of Charleston for the city of Charleston, or so my new friends told me. I would’t blame them! It was an incredible city. And along with this great city came a great Chi Omega chapter. These women were from all over the country, mostly the Northeast, looking for a more favorable climate for college. With their variety in background came a variety in personality. One leader was fashionable, bold, and gentle in nature. Another was the savviest Google Doc user I’d ever met with the ability to sing bird calls. Another was an outgoing, bubbly leader who doesn’t shy away from serving others in any way she can. I could go on and on about the beautiful differences in these leaders and how it made them shine. The one word I would use to describe all of the women in this chapter though is PASSIONATE.

These girls have passion and empower one another to use their passions to serve others. It was the most beautiful thing to witness. The president was passionate about helping out another group with a backpack drive, and instead of providing just one or two bags, the girls contributed over 20 bags to help them out. Another group of gals were passionate about sustainability, so they put on a tag sale that raised over $2,000 for Make-A-Wish. I could go on and on about all these women are passionate about, but what stood out to me the most was how they were all doing something to pursue those passions.

I am so thankful that Chi Omega provides an outlet for encouragement. That it is a place where women feel strong and strengthened to pursue their passions. My hope is that each chapter is filled with women who have big dreams and that Chi Omega gives them relationships that push them to make those dreams reality. Zeta Gamma, you left me encouraged to pursue my passions and not be afraid to dream big and unashamedly be myself.

University of South Carolina

My time in Columbia, SC was unlike anything I could have expected. I came down to Columbia before my visit to spend a few days with one of my best friends from TCU, Kat. Kat and I had the best weekend spending time with her amazing roomies, watching the National Championships (Go Cocks), taking long walks, and sharing great life chats. One of my best friends from work, Div, also got to drive up from Statesboro, GA and join us for Saturday’s festivities! I LOVE it when worlds collide, and I was beyond thankful that Div and Kat got to become friends. It was a sunshine-filled, joyous weekend that I am so grateful for.

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My visit to the USC Eta Gamma Chapter though started out stormy. The weather has been crazy and unpredictable this week. I spent two days of my visit essentially in my hotel room due to the strong storms, potential tornados, and flash floods. Having my meetings over phone calls was definitely a little different.

Working with these members, when I got to finally meet with them in-person, was a tremendous pleasure. They were all ready to work hard and be open and honest. I was sent here when I was for a reason, I fully believe that. We had so many great, open-hearted conversations about what’s really going on and how they’re feeling about being leaders in a chapter of nearly 400 women. That’s not easy! It takes much bravery and courage to lead so many people and make decisions that may not go as planned.

I am grateful I was there to comfort and encourage. Sometimes we just need someone to come in and listen to us. And that’s a lot of what I do and see my purpose in this role–just being a good listener and letting our women know they are heard. I am so proud of this team’s perseverance and patience in the midst of a hectic week, and I came away recognizing again the importance of listening well and speaking with integrity and thought.

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He knows what we need

Like I said earlier, this week has looked different for me with the crazy storms hitting the Southeast part of the country. Two of my days were spent in my hotel, resting and working from my room. Yes, this was an inconvenience in some ways, but why would I stop to view it as an inconvenience when I could see it as a gift?

Yesterday, I found out my flight back to Texas was cancelled. After talking to our Chi Omega travel agent, we discovered that the next available flight is Sunday morning, extending my trip to South Carolina by another two days. At first, of course, I was caught off guard and frustrated, but more quickly than ever before though, I found peace. Peace knowing that God is in control and is purposing this delay for a reason. In the same way he gave me the rain this week for more time to rest and work, he is giving me more days in South Carolina for a reason.

Earlier this week, I listened to my sermon from church I missed being out of town. It was about suffering and faith and it prepared me for this current trial:

Suffering is a gift. Your tears are a gift to you. That season of loneliness is a gift to you from God. ~Jim Essian

Six months ago, I wouldn’t have been able to so quickly believe that God was good when things went wrong. I would be frustrated and mad and upset about these inconveniences. I fully believe that because of the ways I have suffered this year, specifically the seasons of loneliness I have found myself in, God has drawn me closer to Him than ever before and I more quickly believe that He is good and He is in control. I can see the seasons of hardship as gifts. I can view my changes of plans with excitement, knowing that God has it happening with purpose. He has me where I am, when I am with reason, and I am so grateful for what my time in South Carolina has taught me.

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